June 20, 2009

Writer's Workshop: Current Read

So I'm participating in Mama Kat's Writer's Workshop for the first time. Here is the prompt:

Grab your current read. Let the book fall open to a random page and share two “teaser” sentences from that page, somewhere between lines 7 and 12.

The book I'm reading is "Children of Open Adoption" by Kathleen Silber and Patricia Martinez Dorner. Per the directions, I let the book fall open and here is what it says:

(Speaking of children in open adoption) "They have concrete information about themselves, as well as access to ongoing information over the years and they do not have to be confused by, or obsessed with, unanswered questions or fantasies. They accept the relationship with their birthparents as extended family members as natural and normal."

This is one of the books that our agency requires us to read, and I can see why. I will say that this book has totally opened my eyes to open adoption and the benefits of it. Traditional adoption (or closed adoption) has, in the past, been more common, but as I've recently discovered, the majority of the agencies are trending towards open or semi-open adoptions as a result of many studies that have been conducted exploring the effects on children through both practices.

Will it be easier for Pat and I? Probably not. But will it be best for our child? Absolutely. The bottom line is it will be a huge ministry to our child and our child's birthmom/family. Of course there are tons of variables in how the relationship will actually be, the biggest one being the birthmom, so we will just do our best to have faith and roll with the punches as we go through this. One thing this book reiterates is that adoption is not a "hospital experience" only; but a lifelong commitment. I am still processing what all of this means, and am actually not done reading the book yet, but I will say that I never thought I'd be able to feel the way I do about open adoption. Don't get me wrong...it is still very scary at times but I believe this is an area God is stretching me in. We are just absolutely believing that God is creating our family this way, so we're just trusting that He will develop the appropriate relationship for us and our child.

One last thing...some of you have asked for an update on the situation with the family friend. I haven't heard anything, so I emailed her last night. She has had a really busy week so hadn't had the chance to get them our information, but said she would do so this week. So we'll see! I promise as soon as I know something, I'll post it here. Thanks for your prayers and checking in on it! :)

P.S. Happy Father's Day to my dear sweet Daddy! He is so amazing and I am so thankful for all he's done in my life. It's never a dull moment with him around and I certainly wouldn't be where I am without all he's done for me. I love you, Daddio! :)

5 comments:

  1. That sounds really interesting! I do wonder about what kids go through and how it feels to have part of your life be a giant mystery like that.

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  2. Everything will go exactly the way it should for your family!

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  3. Thanks for dropping by the other day Sarah! Good luck on yor adoption journey!

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  4. Sounds like a book I need to pick up!

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  5. How wonderful! That sounds like a book I will have to pick up. DH and I were working toward starting the adoption process when we suddenly and unexpectedly became pregnant with our daughter Sadie. As we are still interested in adoption this is a read that's right up our alley! Thanks for sharing and good luck in your quest for adoption.

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