People often ask how we arrived at the decision to adopt, so I thought I'd share a little bit of our story. After trying for nearly 2 years to get pregnant, we found out that it wasn't going to happen. We took the next few months to pray about it before making a decision. We went as far as we felt comfortable going medically, then decided to pray & fast for direction in the month of April this year.
My prayer during that time was not to get pregnant, but that whatever God had planned for us would become the desire of my heart. Adoption was something we had always discussed, but we figured it would be after we had biological children. Regardless, God showed us both a lot during that time, and our relationship with Him grew incredibly strong. As we prayed for direction that month, we didn't share with each other how we were feeling led as we'd decided to wait until the end of the month to discuss it. The pastor of our old church used to say that before making any big life decision as a couple, it is wise to pray & journal about it separately for 30 days, then come back together and share because ideally, if you both heard from God, you will be on the same page and ready to move forward as a team rather than one person having to convince the other to get on board.
I will never forget when we sat down to talk at the end of the month...the excitement in both of our eyes & hearts was amazing. God had prepared us to start the journey of adoption, and I truly felt as excited as if I had just found out I was pregnant!
We originally were trying to decide between domestic and international adoption. My husband is part Brazilian, so we looked into adopting from there but quickly learned that wasn't going to be a possibility. So we decided it'd be best to adopt domestically this time. We then began the search for an agency, which was discouraging to say the least. It is criminal the way some agencies operate, with charges that are clearly taking advantage of the adoptive parents. I will be honest - there were times that I thought, "God, are you sure this is what you have for us?" because we did not feel settled at all about any of the agencies we'd been in contact with. Then one day, a friend told us about an amazing non-profit Christian agency. Within minutes I had called and spoke to the director, and we mailed our application the next week! The timing of coming in contact with this friend who knew of the agency was a total God thing. He has an amazing way of putting all the pieces together! We absolutely love our agency and are so thankful for the work they do. Their ministry to birthmothers is absolutely incredible. As they say, they are not finding babies for families, but finding families for babies.
This journey has been nothing short of amazing. My faith is stronger than ever, and I can't wait to see what God has in store for our future! :)